Ralakimus1 Thu Jul 07, 2022 9:05 pm
Honestly, after seeing some of these posts, I have some thoughts:
- The "incel" mentality is just a massive victim complex, and quite frankly, it's probably a good thing that you were rejected. They would've just spiraled you down into becoming an extremely insufferable and awful person.
- I have no idea who are you are and how you act like in real life, so I cannot say for certain on what exactly might be going on with you specifically, but once in a while, it worth looking into yourself and questioning yourself in general. For example, a lot of self proclaimed "nice guys" believe themselves to be nice, but then go make threats and demands, and constantly bitch and moan about not getting a girlfriend, "despite being so nice". Figure out your toxic traits and do something about them. I will be very frank in saying that you do seem to shift blame a lot and get unnecessarily upset and jealous at other people, and act like a victim when things aren't going your way. It's also very clear you are still clinging onto your ex, even after over a year of being separated. In general, people view this kind of behavior as extremely immature and toxic, but honestly that extends outside even dating. Honestly, it might be best for you to seek a therapist if you aren't already. If you are and it's not doing anything for you, then search for another therapist. I know what it's like to get the wrong therapist, I've been there, and it really sucks, but in the end, you have to make the effort to look into yourself and take action. Put yourself first. Shitposting on a dead forum and effectively yelling at a brick wall will not do you any good.
- I will say, though, most dating "gurus" or whatever are total bullshit, I do agree, but not for the same reason as you. There is no one true algorithm or method to getting a date. "Different strokes for different folks" as they say.
- You are still young. You have your entire lifetime to figure out a partner. Or alternatively, you also can try to find happiness in other things. That's something for you to think about and look into. Things take time. Rushing into things never does you any good.
Just to make it clear: I do not hate you at all and I'm not wishing anything ill-willed on you, or trying to guilt trip you. These are my genuine thoughts and advice that I think can help you out. You can choose what to do with it. I wish you luck in your life.